THE RISE IN DIVORCE

Everywhere you turn these days you hear about couples getting married and then divorcing, usually after a ridiculously short time and an extravagantly expensive ceremony(and Naija weddings always cost a bundle, the bride has a million friends she wants to invite, both mother in laws have their own horde and you haven't even counted your extended relatives.You have to feed, entertain and keep all your guests happy and cossetted while they are felicitating with you).Now, imagine not being able to stand each other after spending so much money.
A lot of times, people jump into marriages for the wrongest reasons, i'm no psychologist but you don't need to be one to understand the desperation involved in dragging a man to the altar for a lot of women who can't seem to see beyond being someone's Mrs, no matter the level of success they have attained in other spheres of their life, marriage still feels like the cherry on top of the sundae.
Having said that, let me now clarify - I believe the new generation of women are a mix of the traditional and the modern, the traditional part of us respects the institution of marriage and the notion of family being the nucleus of society. the modern part of us wants to hold down a job and contribute to the family and be treated with respect and dignity by the men in our lives. In other words, we are not our mothers - they were martyrs, we are not, their husbands were kings, our husbands are mere mortals, their husbands put down the law, ours just plain misbehave and it seems we are tired of taking it.
I think the rise in divorce is not because men behave worse than than they used to but because women expect to be treated better!